If you are failing in business, you have a mindset issue. It’s not strategy, marketing, or systems; it is mindset every time because if your mind was right, all of the other issues would resolve themselves.
But until you get over the excuses and stories tell yourself and have a healthier mindset, you won’t be able to push beyond.
You have to be willing to do the deep, hard work to live the wealthy lifestyle that others only aspire to achieve but can’t because they don’t work on things like this. This is where the rubber meets the road, and this will make the biggest difference in your life and business.
Let’s debunk some major mindset issues. Just let your mind process so you can make some serious mindset shifts.
Mindset issue #1: I can’t afford it
“I don’t have the money.”
“It is too expensive.”
“I can’t afford it.”
If you say any of those things, you have a mindset issue. Here’s the deal: nothing is actually too expensive or unaffordable. Basically, you don’t want it bad enough.
Own that the next time you say, “I can’t afford it,” “it’s too expensive,” or “I don’t have the money.”
The reality is that thing is not important enough, and maybe that’s true. Perhaps it’s not important enough right now. Maybe, because you don’t have the money right now, you will go back to it later because it is important to you.
If it’s important, stop saying you can’t afford it or don’t have the money and change the verbiage to “What is my action plan so that I can make that first payment? What actions do I need to take to get there?”
Saying we can’t afford it or don’t have the money is a lie. Money is an endless resource. You can truly have as much as you want. All you have to do is tap in and find a way to generate it.
When you stop saying, “I can’t afford it” and realize you actually mean it’s not important enough because if you lit that fire to get it, you could make it happen.
Choose to shift your mindset from “I can’t afford it” to “It’s not important enough,” or “What do I need to do to make that possible?”
If you catch yourself going back to your old mindset, note you’re just saying it’s not important enough. So if you’re staring down the barrel of an amazing extensions class or Thrivers Society and think it’s too expensive, know you’re saying building your business isn’t essential.
Because if it was essential, you would make other financial decisions to afford it.
Change your mindset to “It’s not important enough to me.”
Mindset issue #2: I don’t have the time
You’re actually saying that you don’t know what to do to get the results you want. A lot of people think when you say you don’t have the time, you’re qualifying something as not important, but you’re not.
You’re actually saying you’re lost and don’t know what to do.
Information is the solution to “I don’t have time.”
If you’re standing at the bottom of a goal, looking up as if it was Mount Everest and thinking you’re never going to get there, stop. Find out the information you need so it all falls into place.
For example, if you feel like you don’t have time to do social media or it’s taking you hours, your system is broken, or you don’t know what you’re doing. If writing a caption feels like a rare form of torture, you lack information. If you have educated yourself on writing captions, it becomes seamless.
Educate yourself. Bridge the gap so you find a way to get that project done.
Change your mindset to “I don’t know what to do to get the result I want.”
Mindset issue #3: I would do it, but I don’t know how
This mindset’s solution is the same as above: you need to educate yourself. If you’re saying you would do it, but you don’t know how because nobody’s ever showed you, it’s up to you to figure it out.
It’s like when people say they would move salons, but there’s nowhere else to go. Do you work at the only salon in the world? Do you see how ridiculous that sounds?
Or maybe you say you would sell more retail, but nobody buys it. That’s not true; you just don’t have the skills to sell it because retail is a multi billion-dollar industry. Even in salons, it is still a multi million-dollar industry.
All you need to do is educate yourself. Do some research. Use the time you spend watching Netflix or scrolling Instagram to listen to a podcast or even pay to watch an expert teach the subject instead.
You’ll be amazed at how your life changes.
When you say don’t have the time, or you would do it, but don’t know how, educate yourself. That is always the solution.
Change your mindset to “I need to educate myself.”
Mindset issue #4: I’m overwhelmed
If you’re feeling completely overwhelmed, like you don’t know how you got here or what the solution is, the answer is simple:
You are misprioritized.
The problem is you’re trying to do all the things. You’re trying to do everything, please everyone, and you’re not saying no.
(It’s like the heavens parting and the angels singing, right?)
You have stacked your own plate quite high.
If you’re thinking that people always put stuff on your plate, throw it back. That’s when you get to use this word (have you heard the word before?): no.
The more you say yes and stack that plate high, the closer you’re getting to meltdown and overwhelm.
Really think about what is most important to you right now and how you want to spend your time. There might be a few things that come up, crystal clear, as things you want to do. So why are you trying to do these 17 other things?
You’re not overwhelmed, you’re misprioritized. Because as soon as you have a laser focus on what you need to do to move the needle, it becomes easy. Suddenly you can’t be overwhelmed. You’re prioritized on a couple of things that need to happen, and you start saying no to the rest.
Does anybody have a hard time saying no? If you’re a yes girl and take on burdens to make everyone’s life easier, it’s time to stop.
You might lose some relationships in doing that. But when you look back on those relationships, you’ll probably see they were one-sided. You were the person who provided relief for them, but they didn’t provide any for you. Sometimes you have to let those poor relationships go to nurture those who lift you up and support you in the same way you support them. It changes everything.
It’s time to retire, “I am overwhelmed” and replace it with “I am misprioritized.” Figure out your priorities and what you need to focus on to move forward.
Change your mindset to “I misprioritized.”
Mindset issue #5: I don’t even know where to start
Do you feel like you won’t even go to the starting line because you don’t know where it is? That’s a combination of misprioritized and a lack of education.
If you don’t know where to start, you need education and to prioritize. Anybody who makes real progress will say once they decided where they wanted to go and got the right education, where to start was obvious.
If you want to do all these things – market your business, become a salon owner, move out of booth rental, become a studio suite owner, be an educator – you need to get prioritized and educate yourself. It’s as simple as that.
Once you do those two things, everything will come together. That’s how you get to the starting line.
Change your mindset to “I’m disorganized and need education.”
Mindset issue #6: I’m alone in this
Does your mindset tell you nobody understands your goals, a freak who’s judged for being driven, or a loser for wanting a great life for yourself? Like how insane do those things sound?
Or maybe you’re on the flip side: you’re surrounded by mega-successful people and feel like you’re the only loser, the only one who doesn’t get it.
You know what that actually means?
You haven’t found your community yet.
You’re not alone. None of us are. Once you find the community, you feel like there are other people like me. Everybody on this planet is a weirdo. Your job is to find the weirdos who share the same values as you do.
There will be those who don’t understand you, and that’s okay. We can still love them or choose to bless and release them. But know you’re not alone in whatever it is you want. You just haven’t found your community yet.
If you’re an introvert, it’s even easier to isolate yourself, right? So really push yourself to find a community that lifts you up. It will change your mindset, your relationships, how you show up professionally, even the way you’re inspired.
Change your mindset to “I haven’t found my community yet.”
Everything changes when you shift your mindset. You just haven’t made the time and space to because you’re saying you can’t afford it, you don’t have time, you would do it, but I don’t know how, or you’re overwhelmed. You need these mindset shifts to transform not only your business but your entire life.